Do You Need Therapy?
Are you considering counseling for you or your family, but aren’t quite sure if your situation fits the bill? The following questions refer to common situations that crop up here – please take a look at our solutions to find out if I can help you tackle your issues.
“My daughter and I keep arguing and our relationship is deteriorating. She doesn’t want to talk to me anymore. I can’t seem to reach her.”
“My wife and I have decided to divorce after 10 years of marriage. We have trouble agreeing on things that involve our two children. My son seems to be more moody lately and my daughter doesn’t want to leave her mother’s side.”
“I am in a job I don’t like and it seems that my boss isn’t listening to me. Every time I try to make a change things just seem to get worse. I come home from work after a long commute and I don’t want to say anything. I just eat my dinner and hope everyone will leave me alone.”
“I woke up from a really bad dream and I was sweating and crying. It was hard to breathe. I have nightmares a lot. It makes me not want to go to sleep. I wish I knew what was happening.”
“I think my partner is having an affair. How do I deal with this?”
Counseling with a trained therapist is a wonderful opportunity to focus on problems and create new ways of solving them. It can also help you learn to use your voice to create what you want in the world. Counseling may be brief or more long term depending on the issues that are present. If any of the things you’ve read so far have you thinking “I wonder if I should see a counselor?” please give me a call for a free half hour consultation to see if I might be able to help.
When should I see a counselor?
This is a question that I am often asked as people begin to examine the struggles and challenges of their life. Counseling is an effective way to understand yourself and others better so that you have an improved quality of life. Working with a trained counselor can create clarity for problems, healing for emotional wounds and support during difficult life situations. I am here to help you figure out what is working, what is not working and how to make things better for you and your family.
Why should I see a Marriage and Family Therapist instead of someone else?
The field of marriage and family therapy (MFT) is designed to help people with relationship issues. The relationship can be to another person, a substance (i.e. alcohol or drugs), one’s self, one’s children or the world at large. MFTs have specialized training to address these issues.
A licensed clinical social worker has similar training to an MFT but has an extra emphasis on getting help for the patient by means of a hospital or court social services, to name just a few.
A psychologist has a doctorate in psychology and is often trained in psychological testing as well as counseling.
A psychiatrist is a medical doctor that often focuses on using a medical models to address serious mental health issues and is legally able to prescribe medication when necessary.
An MFT is often the best choice to get an assessment and then to work with other resources and the patient for the most effective therapy possible.
What is Play Therapy?
“Toys work like the child’s words and play is the child’s language.” (Garry Landreth) While it would be wonderful if children could simply tell us in a direct fashion what is bothering them, it is more common for them to work out their issues through play. Play is an important part of human happiness. It is fun and enjoyable, elevating our spirits and brightening our outlook on life.
A child’s behavior is the first thing that adults notice. When that behavior is “bothersome” to the adults, a Play Therapist is called in to help. Play therapy includes activities like drawing, puppet play, role play, sandtray, playing with toys and creating artwork. Play Therapy is a modality most often used with children, however it has been effectively used with teens and families as well. I have over 20 years experience working with children and families. Learn More About My Play Therapy Techniques
Does counseling really work?
Yes, it absolutely does. However, there is no guarantee that counseling will work with just anyone. The therapeutic relationship is built on trust. Without trust and commitment to change, the therapeutic process cannot work effectively.
Finding the right therapist is another important aspect of successful therapy. Sometimes, the therapist doesn’t have sufficient training or education in the issue that is bothering you, so he or she would need to refer you to a new therapist who did have the training. Sometimes the personal style of the therapist is incompatible with the needs of the individual client.
It is okay to stop treatment because it doesn’t feel right. Feeling safe and comfortable enough to do your work is a priority for me.
Do you offer low fee counseling services?
All fees are set and agreed upon at the time treatment begins. I am able to offer the option of working with my highly trained intern for clients or families that need a reduced fee for services.
How long does counseling last?
The length of treatment is determined by the needs of the client as assessed by the therapist. Depending on the assessed problem or issues, there are brief therapy interventions that can be used to effect change in the short term. There are also problems that require longer to work through the issue and so more long term interventions are utilized. After the assessment you will know what to expect regarding length of time for treatment.